I got a great question (well, a number of related questions really) from a reader yesterday. Rather than replying only to him, I thought why not (with the gentleman’s consent) respond with a blog post on the topic.
These days, when you role-play, do you prefer to play the part of a younger woman (like a teenager – I’m not talking about ageplay) or someone who’s fully adult?
I assume that in a session the roles are ultimately determined by the client – so just as long as it’s not something you strongly object to, you just roll with it. It’s not about your preference, but the client’s preference. I think you actually wrote just that in a post a few years ago. But if a client were to ask what _you’d_ like to do, or you were to be playing in a social/non-professional situation where a client relationship wasn’t present, what _is_ your preference? Do you still defer to the top and allow him/her to set the scene, or is this something you control (or at least try to) from the bottom by presenting as an adult (character) from the start?
And have your thoughts or preferences changed as you yourself have gotten older (not older, better!), or since you’ve begun switching? In your own mind, is it still easy to revert to an 18-year old girl getting a spanking when you’re no longer 18, or does that just seem silly to try to pull off now?
I also seem to remember another post from your old blog where you quoted a PB model who was reading scripts for that day’s shoot, who said something like “Great! I finally get to play an adult in one of these.” Is this likely to be a common (if unexpressed) complaint – an “oh, geez – not _another_ naughty schoolgirl scenario…” reaction?
You’re correct that I defer to the client for spanking sessions provided the request is within the realm of what I am comfortable playing. Age play, either older or younger, is not a constraint. I have played roles of a young child that would be considered true ageplay as well as roles of a woman older than my years and everywhere in between. I think that’s the beauty of role play – you can take on a role very similar to your true self or one that is the complete opposite of who you are in real life. Not only am I often asked to play the role of someone either older or younger than my chronological age, but many times the person I’m playing with will adopt a different age himself, often regressing 10, 30, even 60 years. What better place to do so than within the safe confines of a spanking role play?
I am sometimes asked what kind of scene I would enjoy playing in a session (paid or not). I appreciate the opportunity to have some input but I feel a bit of pressure when having to come up with the role play idea. It is always my goal to make sure the other person enjoys the play and so I’ll either give a list of suggestions of scenes that I am comfortable with and enjoy or I’ll try to guess what the other person might like and skew my answer in that direction.
I do not have a preference as far as what age I play within a scene. I am thrilled to play a school girl or cheerleader just as I would to play the teacher or office worker. The variety is actually quite nice. And I think for the model referenced expressing joy in playing an adult role, that she was pleased to do something different because it allows for a different dynamic between the spanker and spankee, different emotions and reactions that can be expressed, and different wardrobe options. I can’t speak for other on the matter, but while I have never thought “oh, geez – not _another_ naughty schoolgirl scenario”, variety is welcomed.
So if I were to be asked to give ideas for scenarios that I’d like to engage in (as far as being on the receiving end), I would still say teacher/student along with principal/teacher, principal/student, coach/cheerleader, older relative/younger relative, and boss/employee. It’s not the age that is really a significant factor in my mind but more the implied level of authority given to whatever role the spanker is taking on. It would be much, much less likely for me to suggest a role reversal scene in which I was the teacher being spanked by the adolescent student. Although this is a dynamic I’m comfortable acting out and have experienced playing, it would not be my first thought since I like the traditional roles of natural authority figure and natural subordinate.
The world of spanking role play is special in that it allows us to put reality aside for a short while. We can adopt whatever age we choose, we can be any character we can imagine, we can even be a mythical being that’s never existed if we choose. Where else can you be so free in your daily life without getting strange looks or being judged? So for me, I’m happy to add or subtract years and enjoy the chance to explore being someone else for a while.
How about you? Do you engage in roles younger or older than your years or do you stick with chronological age only? Do you ask your play partner to take on a different age sometimes? Do you have limits with regard to what age you or your partner take on?