Dear Amber – May 2015

Here it is!  The Dear Amber video, as promised.  I actually wasn’t sure if it was going to happen on time.  Soon after I’d set the deadline, I was totally slammed at school, work, and in vanilla life.  Crazy school projects, extra work hours, family obligations I wasn’t aware of … it was as if the world was conspiring to make me miss my deadline and get me spanked!  I also downloaded new video editing software and was frustrated by the learning curve making the whole process take that much longer.  But a promise is a promise.  Especially when it’s literally my butt on the line.

As I mention in the video, the response to my request for Dear Amber questions was amazing!  I received more questions than I could possibly answer in one clip.  So I plan to continue to film more videos using the questions already submitted.  When I filmed the content a week and a half ago, I was up to 5 printed pages of questions and I know more have been submitted since.  So if you don’t see your answer this time around, please be patient.  There are more Dear Ambers on their way. 

For now, sit back and enjoy this one!

Can’t view the embedded video?  Here’s the link to youtube: https://youtu.be/JTeobNvn51w

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Spring weather is finally here and while I’m still snowed under with tons of papers and tests and work projects galore, I am feeling re-energized by the beautiful weather.  And I’ve heard from a number of people that it’s been far too long since I put out a Dear Amber video.  So, I think it’s high time I remedy the matter.  

Here’s the deal.  I will create a Dear Amber video, probably filmed outside in the lovely warm sunshine.  But I need your help.  I need you provide me with questions you’d like me to consider using in the video.  What do you want to know?  Or what do you simply want to see me ramble on about?  Leave your suggestions in the comments section (preferably) or send them in an email.  If you go the email route, please just be sure to note in the subject line that your questions are for the Dear Amber video.

I work well with deadlines and I don’t want you to send your questions and wonder if I’m ever going to actually get around to making the video so let’s set a deadline of May 6th for the video to be done and ready for viewing.  Why so long?  Well, I want to leave enough time for people to find this post and submit questions and for me to film, edit, and post.  But I will make a deal.  If the video is not up by May 6th, I will take a spanking and post a photo of my red bottom for missing the deadline.  And for those of you that are now thinking, “but I want to see the video AND the red bottom”, maybe.  If you send me some really good questions, I may be inspired to do both.  

Workplace Startle

I was threatened with a spanking at work last week!  All in jest (I think) but my supervisor said she was going to spank me.  Twice.  Within earshot of my coworkers.  The exact quote was, “Put that down!  I’m going to spank you.  I’m a mom, I can spank you if I need to.”

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For the record, I wasn’t stealing something.  I was trying to lift something heavier than I should lift because I like to think I’m Superwoman.  A stubborn Superwoman who knows better but tries to defy gravity anyway.

Anyway, that threat got me to behave real fast.  Not so much because I feared my supervisor would make good on her threat (although I wouldn’t want to test that theory) but because I wanted her to stop saying the word spank!  The word in vanilla conversation still makes me all nervous.

This incident was not the first time my supervisor has used the term spank in casual conversation either.  One day I was catching up on employee training paperwork and pointed out that we were missing signatures from one of the employees.  I was told to get my coworker’s signature and give her a spanking!  I suppose if nothing else, it’s nice that I’m referred to as the switch that I am and capable of both giving and receiving a swat.

Winter Bottom Beauty Tips

i have a few tips for you that you’re probably never going to read in any women’s (or men’s for that matter) health and beauty magazine.  These are spankee specific lessons I’ve learned the hard way.

Winter can be a tough time of year on the skin.  Dry air, cold outdoor temps (except for you lucky CA and FL residents), and overheated houses, all can lead to parched, flaky skin that can crack open easily.  The last thing you want when you’re in the mood for some spanking play is a bottom that looks like two dry biscuits when it’s time to get down to the bare.  And you definitely don’t want to risk the skin splitting and bleeding bringing a halt to the action.  The answer is to moisturize, moisturize, moisturize.

1. In need of an intense moisturizing treatment?  First liberally apply a gentle, unscented lotion to your cheeks.  Then take a piece of plastic wrap and use it to completely cover your backside.  It may be easiest to lay the piece of plastic on a flat surface and then sit on it.  Wrap it around the sides a little and get dressed as you usually would, taking care not to scrunch up the wrap.  The plastic wrap will allow the lotion to completely soak into your skin instead of rubbing off onto your clothing or bed sheets.  Keep the plastic wrap on for no more than an hour.  Then remove the wrap, massage in any remaining lotion, and you’re on your way to a baby smooth bottom.

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YES!!

2. Do NOT use Press N’ Seal cling wrap for the above treatment.  Sure, the Press N’ Seal does an excellent job of adhering to your bottom and won’t be as likely to shift during the hour, but it leaves behind a slightly sticky residue that turns your bottom into a giant lint roller.

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3. Be careful with exfoliating scrubs.  Exfoliating scrubs are excellent for removing the very superficial dried out layers of dead skin.  But a little can go a long way.  Using a coarse apricot scrub say 3 or 4 times in a row may result in a polished appearance, but can spell big trouble.  Far too many layers of skin may be removed resulting in delayed onset pain that feels much like a spanking without a single swat having yet been delivered.  And then when you are actually spanked, even the lightest smack is excruciating.  Speaking from personal experience here.  Save your hide, spankees.  Literally.

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CAUTION!!

And that’s your winter bottom beauty tips for today.

 

What I’ve Been Up To

I keep thinking that one day I’ll be all caught up with school, work, email, appointments, obligations, chores, and finally be able to curl up and write a nice blog post.  And then in what seems like a blink of an eye, another week or 3 has slipped by!  So what exactly have I been up to?

I’ve been trying to save injured wildlife.

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Bundling up like Nanook of the North, shoveling lots of snow, and white knuckling it on icy roadways back and forth to work.

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Hitting the books.  Or rather, they’ve been hitting me.

 

 

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Dancing around like Napoleon Dynamite to Uptown Funk when no one is around.  (No, you won’t be seeing pictures or video of that.  No one needs to see that!!)

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Meeting for spanking sessions when my crazy schedule allows and on the rare occasions that Ol’ Man Winter chooses not to dump more snow and ice in the area.

And wondering if this is a real game.  It’s supposedly an Android app game where you get to choose an implement and give swats to an anime character in the gender of your choice.  Somehow you score points for delivering sounds swats.  I don’t have an Android device so I can’t check it out but it sounds like a cute game.  Kind of like Fruit Ninja with a spanking theme.  Anyone with an Android phone ever see this?

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And …I’m Back!

Yay!  My blog is back in action now.  All links restored and you can leave comments again thanks to the helpful tech support at my web hosting company.  I always feel a little awkward when calling the tech line knowing that the staff will be looking at my blog.  Thankfully, the gentleman I spoke to the other day was very kind and said he enjoyed getting calls about interesting sites such as mine! 

Anyway, I apologize for the prolonged absence.  This past semester flew by as I was constantly swamped with schoolwork and juggling vanilla work and sessions.  I would think of things I’d like to post (often while driving and not the opportune time to blog) but then would never get time to sit and write anything other than case studies and regulatory papers.

Somehow, despite my slacking on blogging, Santa saw it in his heart to be kind to me.  Sure, he did put coal and switches in my stocking, but thankfully they were the edible kind.

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And did you know there was a Spanker Smurf?  I’ve seen that Smurf movie and I don’t recall him ever making an appearance but sure enough, I am now the proud owner of a Spanker Smurf doll.  Ok, so maybe it’s actually Vanity Smurf, but the gift sender and I both had the same thought when we took a look at that “mirror” in his hand.

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And while Santa did not drop these off for me, don’t you think they’d make great stocking stuffers?  They claim to be salad servers but I think they’d be far better used for smacking a bottom than slopping lettuce around.

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Anyone else get a spanking related present this year?  Better yet, did you receive and Christmas spanks?  I’m not sure if you need to be on the naughty or the nice list to receive them.

Tech Issues!

Sorry for the lack of posts.  I’ve had some ongoing tech issues (coupled with a chronic shortage of time, lol) but hopefully I’ll have a new entry up soon.

I know that currently you can’t navigate beyond this home page and I plan to contact my host tomorrow.  Something must have happened when they resolved the issue of me being locked out of my blog dashboard altogether!

Sorry for for the inconvenience but I wanted to post this temporary message to say that otherwise all is well and I hope everyone is off to good start for 2015!

Chair Height

Over the knee is the classic spanking position. There’s nothing quite like being draped over the spanker’s lap, bottom turned upright ready to be warmed. For the spankee, there is a mix of security and vulnerability in being held close to the spanker’s body. Many spankees desire the ultimate feeling of helplessness that would come from lying over the lap so high off the ground that neither feet nor hands could touch. But this is not always feasible in adult play.

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Remove those arms and these would be just about perfect

The adult spankee is often too long to dangle off the spanker’s lap when placed on a chair of standard height. A possible solution to these issues is to use a chair with long legs such as a sturdy bar stool with back support for the spanker. By boosting up the chair height, it may be possible to position the spankee so that she/he cannot reach the ground with either her hands or feet. It certainly adds to the feeling of being tiny and helpless but to receive the punishment that’s coming and allows for lots of unrestrained kicking.
But the tall chair isn’t doesn’t resolve all the issues. You see, the adult spanker and spankee are often relatively close in height. That means that when the chair is high enough that the spankee can’t touch the ground, the spanker is probably not going to be able to secure his/her feet on the ground either. Some very tall spankers may be able to do so, but certainly not everyone. With neither one touching the ground, this can lead to some wobbly moments. Also, the full weight of the spankee is being supported by the spanker’s legs which can be uncomfortable for both parties after a while. A knee pressed in the gut or ribs can distract from the sensation taking place on the backside!

barstoolA stool like this will likely lead to a double faceplant

But if the suspended in the air feeling is important, a well-built tall chair can be the way to go. If possible, put the same kind of thought into selecting a chair the way you would when selecting an implement. Look for good craftsmanship and solid construction. Get one with a seat back and no swivel action. Rails or a foot rest on the chair legs are great because they offer a place for the spanker to hook his/her feet and for the spankee to grab hold of as needed for support and balance. If you can find a chair with a padded seat, that’s the best. After all, we wouldn’t want the spanker’s bottom to experience any discomfort while delivering the spanking, right?

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Practically perfect in every way

Have you ever used a tall chair for a spanking? Have you come up with another way to keep the spankee suspended high off the ground?

Preferred Age In Role Play

I got a great question (well, a number of related questions really) from a reader yesterday.  Rather than replying only to him, I thought why not (with the gentleman’s consent) respond with a blog post on the topic.

These days, when you role-play, do you prefer to play the part of a younger woman (like a teenager – I’m not talking about ageplay) or someone who’s fully adult?

I assume that in a session the roles are ultimately determined by the client – so just as long as it’s not something you strongly object to, you just roll with it. It’s not about your preference, but the client’s preference. I think you actually wrote just that in a post a few years ago. But if a client were to ask what _you’d_ like to do, or you were to be playing in a social/non-professional situation where a client relationship wasn’t present, what _is_ your preference? Do you still defer to the top and allow him/her to set the scene, or is this something you control (or at least try to) from the bottom by presenting as an adult (character) from the start?

And have your thoughts or preferences changed as you yourself have gotten older (not older, better!), or since you’ve begun switching? In your own mind, is it still easy to revert to an 18-year old girl getting a spanking when you’re no longer 18, or does that just seem silly to try to pull off now?

I also seem to remember another post from your old blog where you quoted a PB model who was reading scripts for that day’s shoot, who said something like “Great! I finally get to play an adult in one of these.”  Is this likely to be a common (if unexpressed) complaint – an “oh, geez – not _another_ naughty schoolgirl scenario…”  reaction? 

You’re correct that I defer to the client for spanking sessions provided the request is within the realm of what I am comfortable playing.  Age play, either older or younger, is not a constraint.  I have played roles of a young child that would be considered true ageplay as well as roles of a woman older than my years and everywhere in between.  I think that’s the beauty of role play – you can take on a role very similar to your true self or one that is the complete opposite of who you are in real life.  Not only am I often asked to play the role of someone either older or younger than my chronological age, but many times the person I’m playing with will adopt a different age himself, often regressing 10, 30, even 60 years.  What better place to do so than within the safe confines of a spanking role play?

I am sometimes asked what kind of scene I would enjoy playing in a session (paid or not).  I appreciate the opportunity to have some input but I feel a bit of pressure when having to come up with the role play idea.  It is always my goal to make sure the other person enjoys the play and so I’ll either give a list of suggestions of scenes that I am comfortable with and enjoy or I’ll try to guess what the other person might like and skew my answer in that direction.

I do not have a preference as far as what age I play within a scene.  I am thrilled to play a school girl or cheerleader just as I would to play the teacher or office worker.  The variety is actually quite nice.  And I think for the model referenced expressing joy in playing an adult role, that she was pleased to do something different because it allows for a different dynamic between the spanker and spankee, different emotions and reactions that can be expressed, and different wardrobe options.  I can’t speak for other on the matter, but while I have never thought “oh, geez – not _another_ naughty schoolgirl scenario”, variety is welcomed.

So if I were to be asked to give ideas for scenarios that I’d like to engage in (as far as being on the receiving end), I would still say teacher/student along with principal/teacher, principal/student, coach/cheerleader, older relative/younger relative, and boss/employee.  It’s not the age that is really a significant factor in my mind but more the implied level of authority given to whatever role the spanker is taking on.  It would be much, much less likely for me to suggest a role reversal scene in which I was the teacher being spanked by the adolescent student.  Although this is a dynamic I’m comfortable acting out and have experienced playing, it would not be my first thought since I like the traditional roles of natural authority figure and natural subordinate.

The world of spanking role play is special in that it allows us to put reality aside for a short while.  We can adopt whatever age we choose, we can be any character we can imagine, we can even be a mythical being that’s never existed if we choose.  Where else can you be so free in your daily life without getting strange looks or being judged?  So for me, I’m happy to add or subtract years and enjoy the chance to explore being someone else for a while.

How about you?  Do you engage in roles younger or older than your years or do you stick with chronological age only?  Do you ask your play partner to take on a different age sometimes?  Do you have limits with regard to what age you or your partner take on?

Fall Spanking Fashion – Pants

It’s a chilly, rainy day here.  Definitely not shorts weather.  I guess fall is truly around the corner.

I much prefer wearing shorts or a skirt over jeans or athletic pants, but I have to admit, pants can accentuate the curves of the bottom nicely.  I know quite a few people that are happy that ladies will be running around in leggings and yoga pants again now that the cooler weather is back.  They are designed to hug all the right places.

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Are you a fan of these styles of athletic pants?  Do you refer to both as yoga pants or the ones on the left as yoga pants and the ones on the right as leggings?  Is it a regional thing?

When I’m people watching and checking out spankable bottoms that walk by (yes, I look! How could I not?), I most admire girls and guys fitted jeans.  Something about the denim makes them extra spankable.  Even more so in my book than yoga pants.

What’s your preference?  Jeans?  Yoga pants?  Leggings?  Who cares because they’re coming down anyway?